Here are the basic facts about me and what I will be posting on my blog,

  • I am 38 years old (as of November 2011)
  • I have a 15-year-old daughter from my first marriage
  • We’ve been trying to conceive (TTC) for nearly 5 years
  • I have had nearly EVERY test possible
  • Our problem is the quality of my eggs (they are too ‘fragmented’)
  • We’ve had 2 attempts at IVF with my eggs (both failed)
  • We’ve had 1 attempt at IVF with a donated egg (this worked….but then I miscarried at 6 weeks)
  • My husband does not have any children.
  • We are absolutely not rich, just normal hard-workers with a mortgage and a dog

I have what’s called secondary fertility, as I have a daughter, but due to age and a lifetime full of stress, my eggs have ended up a tad scrambled. It’s anyone’s guess as to why this really happens and the medical profession doesn’t know either, but I try to keep positive. It can be very easy to get labelled as ‘infertile’ but do you know what?, nothing is impossible, and it may just be that I have 1 decent egg knocking around in there, and one day…it just might happen. What I absolutely do know, is that if I call myself ‘infertile’ then I will have given up. And I won’t do that. Not until Mother Nature bitch-slaps me and calls it a day :-0

I will be addressing the following topics in my future blogs;

  • The tests, what they tell us and how scary are they really? (never, ever as bad as you think they’re gonna be)
  • The Positive stuff to try; the diet plans, the vitamins, the exercise, the mental attitude
  • The Negative stuff to avoid; why and how obvious things like smoking, drinking affect us, but also pollution, stress and even being around negative people
  • Doing your own research, what’s good and bad
  • Telling people… should you? And if so, how and when?
  • Clinics; home, abroad, NHS, what to expect
  • The IVF process itself
  • Emotionally coping with a failed IVF process…and turning it into a strong step on your journey
  • Egg donation; what the heck is it?! how do you ‘get eggs’? Getting your head around the strangeness of what you’re doing (trust me..it takes a while)
  • Ok enough is enough..I think I’m going insane..I can’t take it anymore..I shall punch the next person who says ‘you just need to relax’… (it is extremely important to ‘go’ with this, it’s better out than in)

I really hope I can help and reassure some of you (well lots of you actually). I have had fantastic support from this forum Fertility Zone (www.fertilityzone.co.uk) and there are lots of forums you can join if that appeals to you. Support from friends is wonderful BUT the empathy, the complete understanding of what you’re going through is missing. This is purely a sad fact, and most certainly not the well-meaning friends fault (we love all our dear friends, but sometimes we can just tell that they truly don’t know what to say to us, right?). Well, I’m offering you my friendship. Coupled with my empathy, my knowledge and my love. If you’ll have me?


2 responses to this post.

  1. You’re blog looks great and is so comprehensive! I look forward to reading what you have to say.


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